I was a pretty lucky kid growing up. My mom was not perfect, but she was an incredible mother. Which is pretty remarkable when you consider that she did not grow up with a great role model for parenthood. Her mother died when she was 3 and her father was so overcome that he could not pull himself out of his own grief to be a parent to his children. My uncle, aunt, and my mom raised each other. Yet somehow, even though she was just a teenager when I was born and my father was not there, she became an incredible mom. I grew up clothed, fed, sheltered, and most importantly I always felt loved and like I was the most special person in the world. For the majority of my life it was just she and I (My dad came into the picture much later). She somehow was able to navigate being my best friend and also my moral compass. We didn't have a lot of money, my mom worked hard, AND yet always had time to play with me and go on weekly adventures. It is because of her that my biggest dream has always been to be a parent. To pass on the love and guidance that she gave to me. I went through some really dark years, a slave to drug addiction. I was horrible to everyone who dared love me. I was the most horrible to her. I was absolutely not worth loving, and yet she did. She never stopped. And ultimately it was the love and support of my parents that allowed me to fight my way back. My mother's love saved me.
Today when Tony tells me that I am "such an amazing Mama Bear" I know it is because I was shown how to be by her. I am so grateful that I had such an incredible example of how to be a good parent. My daughter gets to have this AMAZING woman to learn from, seek guidance from, and to be her best friend. That's worth everything to me. I love you mommy. Thank you for everything. There are not enough flowers on the planet for me to show you how much I love you.
Happy Mother's Day to all of the MOMMIES, Daddies who are also the Mama Bear, and Single fathers who have to be both. You are amazing!!!