Then today I thought it was going to happen. I was putting Zoey into her stroller at the mall and I noticed this “soccer mom” type watching me intently as she loaded up her kids. I could tell by her expression that she had seen my marriage equality bumper sticker, and was probably praying for mine and Zoey’s very souls. As I adjusted Zoey’s hat, tucked her blankets in, and slipped the diaper bag into the stroller I mentally started rehearsing my speech. I was stretching my neck getting ready for the best “OH NO YOU DIIII IIINT” head rolls when she and her kids rolled past us. I boldly met her gaze as she got closer, just waiting. THEN SHE SMILED! And what is worse she stopped and said Zoey was GORGEOUS (I mean duh). And even worse than that is as she turned to leave she said “You’re obviously a really good mommy”! THAT….WOMAN stole my moment!!!!! CAN YOU BELIEVE HER?!?
What I learned from this moment is that when I judge people before I know them I am as bad as the people who oppose me. I created a whole SCENARIO in my head because of what I THOUGHT she was thinking of me.
I am sure we will have a moment where someone will say something stupid, but in the mean time I need to focus on all the positive energy that has been directed at us. I need to focus on the fact that maybe just maybe Zoey won’t have as hard of a time as I thought. I am sort of in love with the time we are living in right now.