Guuuuurl puuhleeease!

Way before Zoey was born I read in someone’s blog how their 2 year old was having a 2 year old “moment” in a store and this lady had the NERVE to approach the parents and ask where the child’s mother was.  GIIIIIRL, I was incensed and it wasn’t even my story.  I shared this with our surrogate who replied “If that happens with this baby you have to tell them that YOU ARE THE MOTHER”.  I thought this was delicious and have been secretly DYING for my moment.  However, we live in a pretty progressive area and so far no one has even batted an eye.  I am sure there were some comments we didn’t hear, but for the most part we have been treated pretty well.

Then today I thought it was going to happen.  I was putting Zoey into her stroller at the mall and I noticed this “soccer mom” type watching me intently as she loaded up her kids.  I could tell by her expression that she had seen my marriage equality bumper sticker, and was probably praying for mine and Zoey’s very souls.  As I adjusted Zoey’s hat, tucked her blankets in, and slipped the diaper bag into the stroller I mentally started rehearsing my speech.  I was stretching my neck getting ready for the best “OH NO YOU DIIII IIINT” head rolls when she and her kids rolled past us.  I boldly met her gaze as she got closer, just waiting.  THEN SHE SMILED!  And what is worse she stopped and said Zoey was GORGEOUS (I mean duh).  And even worse than that is as she turned to leave she said “You’re obviously a really good mommy”!  THAT….WOMAN stole my moment!!!!!  CAN YOU BELIEVE HER?!?

What I learned from this moment is that when I judge people before I know them I am as bad as the people who oppose me.  I created a whole SCENARIO in my head because of what I THOUGHT she was thinking of me. 

I am sure we will have a moment where someone will say something stupid, but in the mean time I need to focus on all the positive energy that has been directed at us.  I need to focus on the fact that maybe just maybe Zoey won’t have as hard of a time as I thought.  I am sort of in love with the time we are living in right now.